Challenging Behaviors
Most challenging behavior is a child being a child.
Refusing directions, grabbing toys, tantrums, staying awake at nap time. Naming a behavior as developmentally expected changes what the adult does next.
Six sessions on what to do when behaviors escalate and your team is stretched thin. Every recording and every tool, free to use and free to share.
Head Start programs are dealing with escalating behaviors, stretched staff, and not enough support. In our conversations with staff around the country, we kept hearing the same words.
Each session paired national experts delivering practical, research-backed strategies with a Head Start program somewhere in the country sharing what is working on the ground.
One of the only places Head Start staff could connect with peers from other states. You told us that kind of cross-pollination almost never happens, so we made space for it.
Every session was free and built around the chat. People brought their questions, their frustrations, and their wins.
We opened in March by asking what behavior you find most challenging. The chat filled in under a minute. Physical aggression. Eloping. Biting. Hitting staff. Self-harm.
Then something happened that shaped the next five months. The chat kept turning away from the children and toward the adults.
"How to keep calm and support others when everything is going wrong"
"Getting the adults to change their behaviors is the challenge"
"Teachers in the moment don't always have the capacity to remember something. They are too dysregulated in that moment."
We built the rest of the series around that.
Each lesson links to the session it came from, along with the tools we built for it.
Most challenging behavior is a child being a child.
Refusing directions, grabbing toys, tantrums, staying awake at nap time. Naming a behavior as developmentally expected changes what the adult does next.
Start with the adult.
You cannot co-regulate a child from a dysregulated place. Julia Sayles put it plainly in April: we start with the adults.
Relationship is the work, not the warm-up.
Naming the problem is the easy part. Getting anything to actually change runs entirely on trust.
Wellness is an invitation, not an obligation.
Wellness that gets checked off once a year is not wellness. It has to live in the culture of a program.
A trauma-informed lens belongs with every child.
When we pick and choose who gets that approach, children fall through the cracks because their presentation was not loud enough to notice.
In May I asked a simple question: how does your consultant help you? The chat filled with gratitude. Someone who listens. Someone who gives you new eyes on a child you had run out of ideas for. And then, underneath that, another set of answers started appearing.
I don't have one.
I wish we had one.
We are forced to refer out.
That is the thread running through all six sessions. The strategies we shared work. They only work as well as the person carrying them. Every speaker we brought to you was skilled in mental health consultation, which remains the most effective and least available support in this field.
Building it means training a select few people you already have to bring the skills of consultation in house.
Most programs either don't have access to that skill set, and their staff and children feel that impact.
Or they rent that skill set with a contractor or an agency. It works until a budget gets cut. Then it's gone.
In our research with over 30 states we found that the key to sustaining consultation is building internal capacity. Be it at a state level all the way to a program level. Capacity you build inside your own organization stays.
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261 people started this training program with us in June.
enrolled to bring IECMHC skills to their program.
joined to take on the role of a consultant.
*They hold titles like program director, education manager, disabilities manager, pyramid model coach, and various other roles in ECE, Home Visiting, and Early Intervention
Consultation started in early learning and Head Start. This group comes from a good deal more than that.
Kelli McDermott closed our final session with something worth repeating. We started this series because we believe in bringing the stance of mental health consultation to as many people as possible. That belief comes from seeing it work, in the research and in our own practice. It was never driven by performance standards. We will keep showing up and doing this work regardless of what those standards say, because it is best practice for children, families, and programs.